Hello!
I have just so many things to share but I need dinner first.
In the meanwhile, I finally found a writer who managed to put my thoughts about compliments into words.
About why some compliments mean more than others, and it's not just about the person saying it.
"Don’t tell me I’m smart. I am smart, and most days I know it. On the other days, you’re poking at my already-inflamed insecurities. Plus, I’m really not sure whether you’re in a position to judge.
Don’t tell me I’m beautiful. I mean, I’ll probably like it. I’ll probably like any compliment. But whether I’m beautiful or not, my beauty is not the core of my identity. It’d be like telling someone they’re “punctual.” Sure, it’s positive, but… is that really the best trait you could think of?
If you really want a blush, compliment what I do and what I make. Tell me that it was kind and thoughtful to bring that little gift to a friend. Thank me for the thousand little things I do to keep our home a good place to live. Look at my art, read my stories, listen as I describe my code design. Tell me the portrait captures their personality. Tell me the story builds a fascinating world, that it’s beautifully written, that it taught you something (and be prepared for a long discussion). Tell me that the way I built my code was clever, especially if you can say most people don’t catch on to those tricks."
-"16 compliments you can say to someone that'll make them blush.", Thought catalog, hoK leahciM (Michael koh)
This is it.
Adeu ^^