Hello!
Just got reminded of that time I went to Ngee Ann's haunted house with Yol and Nelly when in one of the rooms, one of the ghost called my name.
Haha I was beyond confused but since it wasn't scary (I was playing along to make the ghosts feel better), I didn't question it!
Perhaps it was one of my schoolmates from sec or pri school!
Anyways on Friday, someone asked me how I am so happy and carefree, and asked if it's just a way to hide my troubles.
I didn't know how to explain my stance.
I tried to formulate my reply to no avail.
But then I came across this text post yesterday, ( I had to edit it due to wrong grammar) and it is kind of the answer my friend was asking for.
(okay I realise I didn't edit the word 'didn't' but you guys know that)
It's all about not dwelling and worrying, forgiving and forgetting (it IS possible), keeping a positive mind, know that
everything happens for a reason, being patient, always grateful, to always see the good in people, have sincere intentions and being selfless.
To have a strong, reliable and lovable support system, to be able to give yourself chances and not be afraid of changes.
To some extent, not be involved in others' business.
This is a mistake I did when I was a 13 year old.
I always tried to help my friends settle their drama, and at last I got nothing but unneccessary hate which is so uncalled for (considering the fact that I did nothing to them).
Despite this, I believe that being happy does not equate to putting yourself first.
Atleast not all the time.
Some people find joy in helping others, so be it.
And for some, making people happy makes them happy.
If we keep on dwelling on the should've/could've/would'ves, we'd never be satisfied.
And these are what maintains a healthy brain, a happy heart.
Perhaps that's why I have no close friends in my new school.
Everyone is so uptight and worried all the time.
They don't get why i'm so carefree when they are struggling with studies and life.
They don't understand why I don't care if they complain about not being pretty or smart etc.
I really don't care because these are things we could strive to improve instead of just sitting down and complaining.
And oh, behold the devil of low self esteems, Mr comparison.
I think if one is secure of themself, others' words will not affect them unless it it necessary for improvement.
I do have my issues and struggles at times but to dwell on them like most of the others do is just not my style.
If I can't make things better, I change my mindset about it.
Worrying won't change things.
Facing the music is integrity.
Most importantly is to love yourself.
Not everyday is butterflies and rainbows, we have storms too.
But these storms will pass just like the good times do.
It would help if you have a diary or blog to rant as that always makes me feel better during the days I feel down.
I hope this answers your question, A.
No, i'm not pretending to be carefree to hide my problems and sorrows, if I do have any internal conflict and issues, I try to keep an open mind about it and acknowledge if I have a problem and then find ways to manage it.
Problems are meant to be dealt with, not hide from.
And if it helps, having confidence and being a bit narcassistic works too.
For the times you feel fabulous, flaunt it.
That mental image will stick with you during bad times and effortlessly bring you out of the wreck.
And remember, you really need not depend on
anyone for your happiness.
And stay rational.
Logic is your saviour from jumping into things you're not sure is good for you.
Be brave to push boundaries and test your limits.
Alright I have no idea how I went from halloween to being Oprah, but I hope this has been a fun read.
Adeu ^^
